Born Broken

Born Broken Author Kristin Berry
ISBN-10 9780892217540
Release 2017-03-28
Pages 160
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The story began like a dream… A child is born with all the possibilities of a bright future. Nearby, a loving family waits for the son they have always dreamed of. When they become a family, little league, playdates, birthday parties and college scholarships all seem within the grasp of this all-American family. But when the fairy tale ended… The family realizes their precious child is struggling with the most basic developmental milestones, and they vow to love him more. However, the truth of their son’s condition is something that even the strongest family could not undo. His brain has been damaged by alcohol before he was even born. Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder is the leading cause of birth defects and developmental disabilities in the United States… and there is no cure. One family’s powerful story of faith began. The fight to advocate for their son in a world that did not understand left this family feeling exhausted and hopeless. The isolation of their reality almost destroyed their marriage and their family, until they found strength in a community they never knew existed. They found families that were struggling too. They stepped out of isolation and together they found faith and hope once again.



The Lucky Few

The Lucky Few Author Heather Avis
ISBN-10 9780310345497
Release 2017-03-21
Pages 224
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These are the faces that call me “mom,” the three children who made me a mother. When I started my journey into parenthood I never thought it would look like this. I never planned on having three adopted children, and I certainly never imagined that two of them would have Down syndrome. But like most of the things God does, once we stepped into the craziness and confusion of the unknown and unplanned, we quickly realized that we were indeed among the lucky few. When my husband and I decided to grow our family ten years ago, we were surprised to find that getting pregnant was not as easy as we had thought it would be. And as we navigated the ups and downs of infertility, God led us down the path of adoption. Of course, we would adopt! Not what we had originally planned, but certainly a wonderful option. But just as we began to get a comfortable grasp on growing our family through adoption, God introduced us to Macyn Hope, a very sick little girl with Down syndrome who desperately needed a family. As we continued to follow God’s calling, first with Macyn, and later with Truly and then August, we found ourselves further and further from the comfortable paths we thought our lives would take, and instead moving down some very scary, and often painful roads. Even though at times His plan seemed terrifying and even downright foolish, little could we have known how much goodness, blessing, and joy would flow out of loving these three little people He’s put into our lives. No, it’s not been easy: not the open-heart surgeries or the challenges of raising two children with Down syndrome or the complexities of dealing with birth-families or the struggles we’ve had with the public education system. But through it all, every new and uncomfortable situation has only proven to be another chance to see how very good God’s plan is for our lives and how downright lucky we are to be able to live it out. It’s only the lucky few that recognize that the most beautiful things in this life are often found in the differences. What some would see as misfortune, I’ve learned to see as nothing more than pure luck.



Beyond Consequences Logic and Control

Beyond Consequences  Logic  and Control Author Heather T. Forbes
ISBN-10 9780984715503
Release 2012-03-28
Pages 152
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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today's attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section: true testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.



Upside Down

Upside Down Author Shannon Guerra
ISBN-10 9781512759631
Release 2017-01-17
Pages 92
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Adoptive families working through attachment issues often feel alone. It doesn’t have to be this way though. The communities around them want to help, yet they usually don’t know how to help when it comes to attachment issues. A little perspective can change all of that. Upside Down shares stories from dozens of families healing through the spectrum of attachment issues, from general attachment concerns to reactive attachment disorder. It demonstrates ways adoptive families can explain these often invisible special needs to the community around them, and also shows how these communities can provide support without causing more damage to a hurting child and further isolating the families working so hard to heal them. Topics include —the reality behind the rose-tinted movies; —the why behind the weird limits; —the tangle of community; —what adoptive families really want besides coffee; —sample letters for care providers; and —links and further resources. The message of Upside Down is two-fold: adoptive families are not alone, and the communities around them can be equipped to make sure they never feel that way again.



Parenting in the Eye of the Storm

Parenting in the Eye of the Storm Author Katie Naftzger
ISBN-10 9781784502447
Release 2017-03-21
Pages 160
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Adult adoptee and family therapist Katie Naftzger shares her personal and professional wisdom in this guide to help adoptive parents remain a calm parental influence in the midst of stormy and erratic teen behavior. This guide describes the essential skills you need to help your adopted teen confidently face the challenges of growing up and outlines four key goals for adoptive parents: · To move from rescuing to responding · To set adoption-sensitive limits and ground rules · To have connecting conversations · To help your teen envision their future Parenting in the Eye of the Storm contains invaluable insights for adoptive parents and simple strategies you can use to prepare your adopted teen for the journey ahead and strengthen the family bond in the process. It provides answers, guidance and understanding - working as a road-map through the tempestuous teenage years.



Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent

Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent Author Stacy Manning
ISBN-10 1482336677
Release 2013-03-01
Pages 268
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Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent: A Formula for Building and Maintaining Your Child's Safety Net is an invaluable tool that adoptive parents will use over and over again. Whether you are in the "waiting stage" or you are two, four, six, or even ten plus years into your adoption...this book will to enable you to reframe your situation with a clear vision, new knowledge, tools that work, and the support of others who have walked the path before you. Every child who has been adopted has suffered a breech in attachment; no adopted child is exempt. In addition to attachment issues, some children also suffer with difficult behavior issues amongst diagnoses such as RAD, FAS, and those that suffer with grief, anxiety, sensory issues and the effects of trauma. The author's breakthrough concept of intentionally creating a safety net to help your child heal fills the books entirety. The four-part formula for Building and Maintaining that safety net is laid out in a detailed and user-friendly fashion. It combines the value of knowing yourself, the power of knowledge, specific tools and techniques that work in everyday life and the keys to maintaining the net over time to create a plan you can put in to motion today.



A Place I Didn t Belong

A Place I Didn t Belong Author Paula Freeman
ISBN-10 0988593165
Release 2013-04-16
Pages 208
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Unmet expectations, our children's compromised beginnings, and the wounds we ourselves carry into adoptions conspire to take us to a place we didn't belong. By exchanging our lies for God's truth, emotional healing and spiritual renewal assures us we can be OK when our kids are not! Delivering ourselves into our Father's arms, we can reclaim the journey that starts in our own hearts.



The Adoptive Parent Toolbox

The Adoptive Parent Toolbox Author Mike Berry
ISBN-10 1329128745
Release 2016-03-15
Pages 112
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Sharing insights and real-life stories from the adoption journey, The Adoptive Parent Toolbox is designed to be a guide to any stage of the journey, whether you are thinking about adoption, just starting the process, or thinking about starting all over again. Each chapter delivers real-life perspectives from the Berry's 14-year journey as well as the advice and wisdom of hundreds of other families who have adopted both internationally and domestically. Everything from what to expect when you first begin the process, to handling difficult adoptions, the different costs involved, to post adoption advice when it comes to trauma or attachment issues. The Adoptive Parent Toolbox is a comprehensive guide to just about any aspect on the adoption journey.



When Rain Hurts

When Rain Hurts Author Mary Evelyn Greene
ISBN-10 1597092622
Release 2013
Pages 321
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A story of love blooming in even the most hostile environments, When Rain Hurts tells of one mother's quest to find a path of healing and forgiveness for her adopted son, a boy made feral by prenatal alcohol abuse and the stark rigors of Russian orphanage life.



A Different Beautiful

A Different Beautiful Author Courtney Westlake
ISBN-10 9781634099233
Release 2016-08-01
Pages 224
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When Courtney Westlake’s family was given the shocking news that their daughter, Brenna, was born in 2011 with a severe, life-threatening skin disorder, they began to discover a new and different beautiful in their lives–one that values extraordinary differences and appreciates the wonderful sameness found in humanity. In A Different Beautiful, Courtney explores what her family has discovered in raising a child with physical differences and what she has learned about true beauty. Through her personal insights and experiences, Courtney shares how you, too, can learn to find and celebrate God’s version of beautiful in your life, especially within our differences and struggles.



Becoming Nicole

Becoming Nicole Author Amy Ellis Nutt
ISBN-10 9780812995428
Release 2015-10-20
Pages 320
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A NEW YORK TIMES NOTABLE BOOK • NAMED ONE OF THE TEN BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY PEOPLE AND ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY MEN’S JOURNAL • A STONEWALL HONOR BOOK IN NONFICTION • FINALIST FOR THE LAMBDA LITERARY AWARD FOR TRANSGENDER NONFICTION The inspiring true story of a transgender girl, her identical twin brother, and an ordinary American family’s extraordinary journey to understand, nurture, and celebrate the uniqueness in us all, from the Pulitzer Prize–winning science reporter for The Washington Post When Wayne and Kelly Maines adopted identical twin boys, they thought their lives were complete. But it wasn’t long before they noticed a marked difference between Jonas and his brother, Wyatt. Jonas preferred sports and trucks and many of the things little boys were “supposed” to like; but Wyatt liked princess dolls and dress-up and playing Little Mermaid. By the time the twins were toddlers, confusion over Wyatt’s insistence that he was female began to tear the family apart. In the years that followed, the Maineses came to question their long-held views on gender and identity, to accept and embrace Wyatt’s transition to Nicole, and to undergo an emotionally wrenching transformation of their own that would change all their lives forever. Becoming Nicole chronicles a journey that could have destroyed a family but instead brought it closer together. It’s the story of a mother whose instincts told her that her child needed love and acceptance, not ostracism and disapproval; of a Republican, Air Force veteran father who overcame his deepest fears to become a vocal advocate for trans rights; of a loving brother who bravely stuck up for his twin sister; and of a town forced to confront its prejudices, a school compelled to rewrite its rules, and a courageous community of transgender activists determined to make their voices heard. Ultimately, Becoming Nicole is the story of an extraordinary girl who fought for the right to be herself. Granted wide-ranging access to personal diaries, home videos, clinical journals, legal documents, medical records, and the Maineses themselves, Amy Ellis Nutt spent almost four years reporting this immersive account of an American family confronting an issue that is at the center of today’s cultural debate. Becoming Nicole will resonate with anyone who’s ever raised a child, felt at odds with society’s conventions and norms, or had to embrace life when it plays out unexpectedly. It’s a story of standing up for your beliefs and yourself—and it will inspire all of us to do the same. Praise for Becoming Nicole “A profoundly moving true story about one remarkable family’s evolution.”—People “Fascinating and enlightening.”—Cheryl Strayed “Exceptional . . . ‘Stories move the walls that need to be moved,’ Nicole told her father last year. In telling Nicole’s story and those of her brother and parents luminously, and with great compassion and intelligence, that is exactly what Amy Ellis Nutt has done.”—The Washington Post “If you aren’t moved by Becoming Nicole, I’d suggest there’s a lump of dark matter where your heart should be.”—Jennifer Senior, The New York Times “Extraordinary . . . a wonderful and inspiring story.”—Minneapolis Star Tribune “A downright necessary book—and a remarkable act of generosity by the Maines family.”—BuzzFeed From the Hardcover edition.



Journey Of The Adopted Self

Journey Of The Adopted Self Author Betty Jean Lifton
ISBN-10 9780786723560
Release 2008-08-04
Pages 336
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Betty Jean Lifton, whose Lost and Found has become a bible to adoptees and to those who would understand the adoption experience, explores further the inner world of the adopted person. She breaks new ground as she traces the adopted child's lifelong struggle to form an authentic sense of self. And she shows how both the symbolic and the literal search for roots becomes a crucial part of the journey toward wholeness.



Father Herman and the Flooding Barn

Father Herman and the Flooding Barn Author Jason Weber
ISBN-10 1424553180
Release 2016-11-13
Pages 48
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Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn is a truly unique children's book with a big heart. Based on a true story, this beautiful and whimsical book explores Farmer Herman's quest to solve a very big, big, big problem. After considering a few silly ideas of how to take care of his flooding barn, Farmer Herman comes up with maybe the silliest idea of all--find 344 friends to come help pick it up and move it! This inspiring story from Bruno, Nebraska, has been told around the world demonstrating the power of solving big problems together. One group of people who were inspired by the Bruno barn-moving story were advocates around the country who are working together to provide more than enough for kids and families in foster care. As a way to raise awareness for children in foster care, 344 of these passionate people wrote and illustrated this book together. Kids, adoptive and foster parents, child welfare professionals, pastors, organizational leaders, recording artists, and authors have all contributed original drawings that have been used to illustrate the entire book. Illustrators include Jars of Clay, Andrew Peterson, Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Mary Beth Chapman, Dr. Karyn Purvis, John Luke Robertson of Duck Dynasty, and many others. Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn is a fun story brought into existence by 344 people who are counting on the power of unity to bring hope to 400,000 kids in foster care.



Confessions of an Adoptive Parent

Confessions of an Adoptive Parent Author Mike Berry
ISBN-10 0736970835
Release 2017-10-01
Pages 224
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For parents of adopted or foster children, life presents its own unique set of challenges and struggles. Get the hope and encouragement you need to succeed in your one-of-a-kind parenting role and be reminded that you are not alone on your journey.



No Matter What

No Matter What Author Sally Donovan
ISBN-10 9780857007810
Release 2013-07-28
Pages 352
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'I love you, no matter what.' An uplifting true story of an ordinary couple who build an extraordinary family, No Matter What describes how Sally and Rob Donovan embark upon a journey to adopt following a diagnosis of infertility. Sally Donovan brings to life with characteristic wit and honesty the difficulties of living with infertility, their decision to adopt and the bewildering process involved. Finally matched with young siblings Jaymey and Harlee, Sally and Rob's joy turns to shock as they discover disturbing details of their children's past and realise that they must do everything it takes to heal their children. By turns tragic, inspiring and hilarious, Sally and Rob's story offers a rare insight into the world of adoptive parents and just what it takes to bring love to the lives of traumatised children.



Finding Zoe

Finding Zoe Author Brandi Rarus
ISBN-10 9781940363455
Release 2014-10-07
Pages 288
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At just a few months old, Zoe was gradually losing her hearing. Her adoptive parents loved her—yet agonized—feeling they couldn’t handle raising a Deaf child. Would Zoe go back into the welfare system and spend her childhood hoping to find parents willing to adopt her? Or, would she be the long-sought answer to a mother’s prayers? Brandi Rarus was just 6 when spinal meningitis took away her hearing. Because she spoke well and easily adjusted to lip reading, she was mainstreamed in school and socialized primarily in the hearing community. Brandi was a popular, happy teen, but being fully part of every conversation was an ongoing struggle. She felt caught between two worlds—the Deaf and the hearing. In college, Brandi embraced Deaf Culture along with the joys of complete and effortless communication with her peers. Brandi went on to become Miss Deaf America in 1988 and served as a spokesperson for her community. It was during her tenure as Miss Deaf America that Brandi met Tim, a leader of the Gallaudet Uprising in support of selecting the university’s first Deaf president. The two went on to marry and had three hearing boys—the first non-deaf children born in Tim’s family in 125 years. Brandi was incredibly grateful to have her three wonderful sons, but couldn’t shake the feeling something was missing. She didn’t know that Zoe, a six-month-old Deaf baby girl caught in the foster care system, was desperately in need of a family unafraid of her different needs. Brandi found the answer to her prayers when fate brought her new adopted daughter into her life. Set against the backdrop of Deaf America, Finding Zoe is an uplifting story of hope, adoption, and everyday miracles.



Casting Lots

Casting Lots Author Susan Silverman
ISBN-10 9780306824623
Release 2016-03-29
Pages 256
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Susan Silverman grew up with parents who were, both before and after a devastating loss, atheists. Yet, as a young adult, she shocked everyone who knew her ("But you were elected Class Flirt in high school!") and became a rabbi. What was not surprising, however, was that she built her own big, unwieldy family through both birth and adoption, something she had intended from childhood. With three daughters and two sons ("We produce girls and import boys"), this unique family becomes a metaphor for the world's contradictions and complexities-a microcosm of the tragedy and joy, hope and despair, cruelty and compassion, predictability and absurdity of this world we all live in. A meditation on identity, faith, and belonging-one that's as funny as it is moving-Casting Lots will resonate with anyone who has struggled to find their place in the world and to understand the significance of that place.